Sorry I wasn't able to help you much, but it's glad to hear you don't mind wearing tights that much. As for your friends, maybe after the first few laughs, your REAL friends won't make TOO big a deal about the tights.
As for the leotard being over the tights, i've never heard of that before...I've always heard that guys wear the leotard or shirt under the tights (btw im not a dancer, i'm just interested). I think it does make more sense to wear it like the girls do, though. [/i]