 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Dep on 18.11. at 07:14:11 - as answer to: Losing Lycra Religion by StuckInTights at I think you might be trying to free yourself from the wrong thing. Liking tights isn't your "demon," your self-loathing is. I went through a lot of that sort of stuff when peer pressure was more of an influence in my life. Now I'm comfortable enough with myself to recognize the things that are preventing me from being the kind of person I want to be and changing those things for the better. And one of the most satisfying things I've realized is that liking the way tights feel on me (and on my girlfriend) is not something I need to change. It will most likely remain a comparitively private pleasure for the rest of my life, but giving it up to suit some template of what society thinks a "man" should be is not an option. I've already denied myself too much just to get along with others who wouldn't rest until I was JUST LIKE THEM.Find some understanding people (like us,) see a professional (I do, and yes, she knows), but learn to like yourself, don't hurt anyone ("'less of course they ask you", as my favorite songwriter once said) and find yourself some peace. I did. -Depon Answers to this message:
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