 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Dep on 10.12. at 00:30:11 - as answer to: Re: My Son and Tights by simpathetic reader at >>I checked his drawers and found several pairs of girls tights in his drawers. Hello, Let me first start out by telling you about me. I,m a 41 y/o male who has been married to a wonderfull women for 16 years, I have a succesfull career and home. I have been successful in sports and have many exciting hobbies. Normal in everyway except for my fetish for womens leotards and tights. It started when I was in my early teens. I don,t know what started it, but I know that it is powerfull. I tried consuling and getting rid of my stuff a couple of times, all unsuccessful. What i,m trying to say is that your son has something that is unique, but is not that uncommon, and will probely be with him forever. Also do not assume that he is gay, having a fetish may or may not cross over sexual lines. The main thing is not to be ashamed of him or to make him feel ashamed. It is hard enough for him to deal with this without added pressure and many young men and women haved killed themselves over less. Tell him you except him for who he is and I bet he will make you proud in the end. I hope this will be some help to you. Good luck >>>I second that emotion! Coincidentally, I am also 41 years old (yesterday, as a matter of fact), have been a tights-fetishist for thirty-some-odd of those years, and I also enjoy an enriching and healthy life, sexually and otherwise. I'm hetero, madly (and mutually) in love, and frankly, I wouldn't have gotten to this point if I hadn't come to terms with (and essentially befriended) my tights-fetishist self.>>>My advice? Read some more of the posts on this board, first of all. I think you'll find that most of us are a benign brand of weirdo, and indeed are a bunch of intelligent, emotionally well-off people. Chances are your son's the same. Accept him, tights and all, and it'll pay off in his eventual well-being in spades, I think. I also wouldn't be too quick to confront him, even gently, about this. I don't feel my parents ever had any need-to-know about this side of me, and I don't think they ever will. I get the impression that you're an on-the-ball kind of dad, and you really care about your son. If he's got you on his side, he can't go too far wrong, can he? -Depon Answers to this message:
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