 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by wxw101 at on 20.12. at 03:39:00 - as answer to: My Son and Tights by C I can not teach you to be tolerant, but I can tell you that intolerance will only create the highest levels of pain and unforgiveness for you, your son, and your family. As difficult as it is for you, just imagine how difficult it is for your child not to live up to your expectations. All I can say is try try try to compromise and understand, and vice versa try to help him understand your position and the awkwardness it makes you feel - communication is the key. The road is difficult enough and lord knows so many of us have travelled that other road of pain because no one took the time to listen, understand or just simply tolerate us. Know this; you will not beat this out of your child, nor will spanking your son change his internal feelings. It will only teach him to lie to you and unfortunately lie to himself and will serve as an impedence for the rest of his life in his marriage, his career etc.. Don't take that road. Help him understand it, and most importantly, love your son for who he is. There are so many opportunities in life to be normal. Let him deviate here. Being normal in everything isn't what it is cracked up to be. Just some thoughts from another quite successful business person who is happily married with one amazing son (not that any of this validates me). Thanks for taking the time to read this Concerned Father and i hope it helped a little. Answers to this message:
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