>>>Well, my two cents is that, unless there is some sort of agreement otherwise, any sort of overt sexual communication between the married and a non-spouse is potentially lethal to the relationship. My girl knows that I look at girls in tights, but she also knows that, outside of the occaisional playful verbal exchange, I'll be saving my sexual self for her. Maybe your wife is different, but it doesn't sound like it from your post.Also, how much do you know about this "friend" of hers? My experience with the type she seems to be is that they're wild as a gang of hyenas in bed, but like hyenas, they tend to feed on things that are dying. Does she want to swing with a fun lovin' tights-guy with no strings attached, or does she have some sort of competition (concious or otherwise) going on with your spouse, of the "She may have a husband, but I have the power to take him away" variety? You could be in deep water here, matey! I've had casual sex, I'm currently having committed sex, and the choice for me is obvious. As Paul Newman once said "Why should I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home?">>> If your relationship isn't what it should be for you, that's another story (in which case you need to discuss that with the wife, rather than just screw around, telephonically or otherwise, with a friend of hers,) but if you truly have a wife (someone who will stick with you for better or worse, blah, blah, blah,) then that is worth some respect, isn't it?-Depon