 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Seamless at on 24.05. at 00:49:02 - as answer to: Re: 9 Days in KC Pt. 5 by Terry Gal at >Enough to scare anybody off petticoating for good!>Terry Gal--I agree. You talk to any psychologist, and I'm sure he or she will tell you that this is not the way to discipline a boy. "Shock value" discipline to this level may work in the short run but create serious problems later. It usually has bad side effects, fostering a neurosis that can scar the victim for life. The effects can be anywhere from depression and sexual repression to anti-social behavior and outright aggression. Just the fact that my mother dressed me in tights when I was a pre-toddler, presented gender confusion for me as a child. And this wasn't discipline--she viewed tights as a convenient garment that was warm and inexpensive. But that changed when, as a 3 year old, I found my old tights and started wearing them. "You can't wear those!" "But why?" "Because only girls are allowed to wear tights!" So there I am, with this vivid recollection of wearing tights, enjoying the feeling of them, then finding out that boys aren't permitted to wear them. So, what am I? A boy that my mother wished had been a girl? Fortunately, I turned out OK. But something so subtle became such a fixture in my life. If I was disciplined by being forced to wear them in public and be embarrassed to high hell, no telling how badly this would've screwed me up. Answers to this message: |
