 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Todd on 12.01. at 18:54:44 - as answer to: far from going out with a bang, I'm afraid... by Seamless at best of luck...I've tried to shed the tights, but I just come back. As someone said, I'm afraid it's hardwired, just as the color of your eyes. BUT - I think you can do what you're doing. I mean, it's true - if i could choose between having this fetish and not having it, I'd choose to not have it. I don't know - I guess I toggle back and forth on that question. It does I think get in the way of my relationships. I mean, I'm in a relationship now, and I don't WANT to really wear tights with her. I don't want to be thought of as less of a man to her. If it's a stranger at a halloween party, or an escort, no problem - I embrace being kinky, deifferent, having a fetish. Kudos to you Depon. I guess I would be if I had a kinkier girlfriend. Mine's just a regular girly girl who would just think it's too f'ing weird. I know it. >Everybody is unique in some respect. You can have similarities, but even things in common are different. Especially where fetishes are concerned, even of the same genre. It's been great participating in this forum, seeing all of these different perspectives, in addition to moral support. Thanks to everyone who has given constructive and entertaining postings here over the years!>Well, for me, I could never get to that point of free acceptance of the fetish. I'm what I'd call a distracted-hetero. While indulging in tights, I'd experience a lessened drive to seek out a sex partner. Of course, seeing a woman in tights always got me going, but finding someone who shares the same interest... well, I couldn't get lucky. Even a rare few seemed to be simply "considerate" and were simply unable to see it through my eyes. A big tip o' the hat to Vic and Depon for finding their dream partners!>So I concluded that the only way I could be happy was to be rid of the fetish enough to no longer feel the need to wear them. Certainly, admiring women wearing tights would never die. But I didn't want to feel that longing anymore...>I tried a number of times to shed the lycra sheathings, but I'd keep coming back. I had to find another way... and eventually I did. Slowly but surely, my desire waned. At this point, I can put them on without any arousal and simply feel neutral about them. And boy, has it unleashed me... I'm on the prowl, taking numbers, getting dates--it's how I was always meant to be.>So I feel confident enough at this point to say I'm through. I've no longer got the need to wear tights, nor converse with others about them. It's time to move on. And anyway, the board just hasn't been able to recover from the spammers from a couple of years ago.>I hope that those of you who remain active can give each other the support and entertainment you need. I wish all of you the best in 2005!>--snipping time-->Farewell my friends,>~Seamless~ Answers to this message:
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