If you look at this board, The Ballet Shop, the postings are few and far between as far as dates go. I don't believe many people read this board, let alone have responses to a question that's kind of involved.
If you look on the Dancewear Dreams board, Melissa wrote a message on 10/28/00. She too is a pre-op transsexual. She first got a nasty response from some guys named Petey. I wrote her a heart-felt response. Please take a look at that.
As I said to her, I have to be honest. There's not much understanding in the world for pre-op transsexuals, and post-op transsexuals face problems with being accepted. I've had experience with transsexuals, so it's no big deal with me, but other people don't have much of a chance to understand about the complexities involved. (Hell, was I being polite? Most people are a**holes!)
Are you in a city where there's more tolerance? I suggested various approaches for Melissa. They will also apply to you. Please read that message.
I'm sorry that you didn't get a response on this board. You do deserve a response to what is a legitimate question. E-mail me if you have more concerns.
Good luck! balletboy[/i]