Hi Stephanie, Yes, you are right on the money. My wife does not care so long as it does not get out of control as you also said. I am also in ballet also (my wife isn't),thoughI keep my tights fetish out of the studio. As far as wearing the tights around home, only if its done within moderation and in the privacy of our house. Your boyfriend and I are lucky to be with women who tolerate this.[/i]