i know exacty your problem. the only way 2 get that seprate-cheeks look is 2 wear a dance belt OR if u just cant get 1, then put on realy tight undies 1st. Or get a snug speedo. If im at home i just use my speedo swimmer from 2 years ago. tug it up so the back is up ur butt-smiley sorta. uknow, like a thong. with the speedo u can now pull up ur tights tighter witout ur stuff getting pinched. And if they r good tights then all u got 2 do is sorta pull on em away from ur butt-smiley + let em sorta snap back, that stretches em out abit there, + now ur bum cheeks show with a deep sorta valley along the middle of em.[/i]