Hi welcome to the message board. I'm straight here too and it is amazing to hear of so many stories such as yours. I used to think that I was the only person in the world who felt this way.
Just wondering what got you into it? did you grow up with sisters or did you get the idea from seeing a ballet or tv show?
There is a great company on the web www.renaissancedancewear.com, they do all sorts of costom made tights, leotards and unitards. they can made it to whatever size or color you are looking for.
Good luck and keep us posted.[/i]