Komo, thanks for the suggestions. The dancebelt fit is a dilemma. The ones I have now are very snug. This is comfortable for me, and it does keep everything where it's supposed to be, but then there is this downside that I've been describing.
When you say that you don't wear a dancebelt but that you "compensate in other ways," are you referring to a unitard or leotard? Or...?
(I really am gay - at least, the last time I looked.)[/i]