There really is nothing wrong with taking ballet.  In fact, letting her know that may open things up, allowing you to wear lycra items.  If you take ballet, and that's part of what you are supposed to wear, having similar things around may go by the wayside.

The reason I say this is that I've been with the same girlfriend for two years.  We have been living together for a year now.  When reading your postings, I thought about my own situation.  On our first date, I told her that I was a transvestie, and probably told her that I did ballet.  She has never accepted my crossdressing, an never wants to see me dressed-up in person (but has seen video and photos from clubs and the like).  The strange thing for me is (and I've been a transvestite since I was about five), since living together, I haven't had the deep urge and need to crossdress.  I know this is unusual for transvesties, but it seems to be the case for me.

However, she supported me returning to ballet recently.  However, I haven't discussed with her if she'll get upset seeing my leotards and tights drying in the shower (I now hang them in my den to dry).

Anyway, to sum it up, if you broke it off with her, you had nothing to loose by telling her the truth.  If you lost her, you'd be in the same boat you are now.  If she accepted and stood by you, you would be one very lucky man.

Best in whatever happens.

--EMPIRA

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