 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Vic at on 11.11. at 15:50:45 - as answer to: Re: tights sex? by Todd >You're right about the "what do I have to lose" part I suppose. thanks for the note. >You know, I too have an ex-fling (an old co-worker from maybe 9 years ago now) and she was kinky, and totally kind of like "the whole world should wear tights" kind of girl, she had an amazing body and great looking, and wore panthyhose and tights alot. I did explore a bit with her (halloween party, both wearing costumes and tights), but I feel now I didn't quite take full advantage. And like you, I still think about her (she's happily married with kids now) and her "kinkiness" and open mindedness..>>It's strange how a fetish can sometimes alter a person's life without them even being aware of it. I too have an ex-girlfriend who seemed a little kinky. We've been apart for over a decade but I still think about her. >>One time we were in a store together and we were looking through some racks of clothing when we came upon some leotards and tights. She said, "I should buy a leotard and tights to wear under my clothes this winter. It's getting so cold out." Trying to hide my excitement, I said, "Yeah, those would keep you warm." She smiled and said, "You should get some too. No one would know. It'd be our little secret." I laughed it off and it was never mentioned again.>>Jump forward now, fifteen years later, I've moved on. I'm happily married now to a woman who has no idea about my odd proclivities. And yet, occassionally, I'm haunted by that c0mment and all the thwarted possibilities it suggests. What would have happened if I'd just grabbed a leotard and a pair of tights and marched up to the register? Would she have freaked out? Would my entire life be different than it is now? Who knows.>>To paraphrase the words of an old Butthole Surfers song - It's better to regret the things you have done than the things you haven't done. I say spring the tights sex on your Ex. It could work out great. You could end up as one of those people (Vic, I'm looking at you) who has an amazing, understanding woman who can share in every aspect of your life. Or maybe she'll slap you in the face and storm out the door. >>Either way, she's already an EX-girlfriend. What do you have to lose? ...>>>>>>>>I think the best way to approach the situation is to try and engender a free-wheeling, giddy atmosphere where you & her can just whip out a bunch of random, kinky ideas and approach it from the standpoint of "hey! We're kidding around, but this one sounds pretty fun! Dare ya to give it a go!" I know this is easier said than done, but I think if it's "on a lark" rather than a big, worked-up plan, there's more chance of success. Or at least a graceful exit, in case it doesn't fly with her. Ironically, in my relationship, it's Marie that is the one that keeps me "pushing the envelope". I had a very inhibited, conservative upbringing, and she brings a lot of spice to my life. We've been together over 20 years now, and I know my life would be pretty damn dull without her. I just wish "regular life" (work, bills, chores, etc.) didn't suck so much energy out of the both of us. But HEY! When it works out and comes together, ZOW!! Good Luck- Vic Answers to this message:
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