 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Seamless at on 03.09. at 09:44:06 - as answer to: Re: Trial Seperation by Pinktights_blackleotards@yahoo.com at PTBL, sorry to hear of your troubles. It is hard to give advice knowing so little... but if there's anything I can say to add perspective, I suspect that the tights aren't really the crux of the problem. Would you say that over the course of the past 10 years, you've usually had very good communication and non-sexual intimacy? It is very common for people to make a subtle drift apart, especially when kids come into the picture. And when the distance is deep enough, it is easy to fall out of love. Maybe you've both grown apart? The other thing is, are the tights a mandatory part of your love making? If they are, then that may have also taxed the relationship. Perhaps she was fine with it as a part-time thing, but as your demands to have them always a part of sexual relations she may have found it difficult to convey her true feelings (not wanting to hurt you)... and over time that builds into resentment. I think it is possible to have tights as part of your sexual lifestyle as long as you also have sex without them. If you must fantasize about them, then perhaps you need to "reframe" your sexual outlook... I'd look into seeing a sex therapist. Good luck to you.~Seamless~ Answers to this message: |
