 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Vic at on 28.07. at 15:56:19 - as answer to: Trial Seperation by Pinktights_blackleotards@yahoo.com at >As of tomorrow Friday afternoon my wife and I will be trying a trial seperation. She says she needs time to get her feelings together. I am very sad btu trying to keep my head up and hope that she realizes she really does want to share her life with me. I have blown up several times this past week when we have gotten into heated discussions like she wants me out of the house but she wants me to be able to come over in the mornings and drive our kids to camp since she works early. >Now it's not that I don't want to see my kids because I really do and it'll hurt ther most not seeing them every night and morning but I don't think I should make this easy on her since it's her decision. But I guess I am a fool since I said I'd do it but they go the the gym I workout at for camp and I workout every morning so at least this way I'll get to see my kids every morning.>This weekend I'm going to the shore (Atlantic City) to spend the wekend with some friends and giver my wife the space she wants and feels she needs. >For the 1st 10 years of our marriage she never had a problem with me weaing tights with her or without her and dsuring sex she'd even wear them and would wear a full ballerina costume as I would during sex and we even video'd our sex with us both wearing tights and leotards. Then about 6 months ago she said she realized it really bothered her and didn't want to be a part of that nor see it so I stopped wearing them around her. >Well I'm bringing my pink, white, and black tights and my purple, maroon and black leotards to the shore so if anyone will be at the jersey shore this weekend respond and lets meet up.>Pink....>>>>>>>>>>>>Very sorry to hear that. They say free advice is worth what you paid for it, but here goes- 1) Despite the current troubles, if you want a shot at reconciliation, be honorable, helpful & trustworthy. Even if things don't work out, at least you can hold your head up & know you took the high road. You mentioned going to the shore with your tights and seeking "meeting up". I'm not sure what the phrase "meeting up" means to you, but if you stay faithful to your wife despite how things are, you'll be proud of yourself later, whether things work out or not. Staying involved with your kids doesn't make you a fool, it makes you a good dad. You also mentioned you had "blown up" several times in the last week. If you love her & want to stay with her, ask yourself if bursts of anger makes that more, or less, likely. 2) If you can afford it & she's willing, get to a good, experienced marriage counselor. Overcome any worries about opening up on topics of contention. They've heard it all, I'm sure. My guess is that your fetish is not the main problem, unless you're really insistent or pushy about it. Even then, it wouldn't be the fetish, since you mention that she never had a problem with it earlier on. More likely some other problem(s) resulted in her not feeling as intimate towards you, especially if regular sex, or even hugs, kisses, & sweet talk dropped off as well. Good luck to you. Be honorable. You won't regret doing the right thing. My 2 cents worth- Vic Answers to this message:
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